Having a child who is struggling with a drug addiction can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Even more difficult, is having to confront the child about entering drug rehabilitation so he or she can properly recover and regain a healthy lifestyle. With enough preparation and tools available, it can be possible to connect with your child and help them to consider drug rehabilitation, as 95% of interventions are successful with the four million patients in rehab each year.
Many parents can become enablers for their child’s drug addiction by withholding how they really feel to prevent hurting their child or putting strain on the relationship. Although the parents are supposed to help their children, boundaries need to be made and honesty should be established to pursue recovery. Share your feelings, concerns, and fears, while also using hopeful words to effectively communicate and help your child understand the severity of the situation.
A conversation suggesting further options be taken by entering a drug rehabilitation center should conclude by providing necessary resources to provide options for the child. This will make it easier for them to agree and enter the facility without having a change of heart. Many addicts simply do not enter rehab because it is more convenient to continue their dependency.
Expect common questions your child might ask and be prepared with the answers to make for a smoother and more beneficial conversation that has a positive outcome.
Stand Your Ground
Enlist another family member or friend to assist you with your efforts to communicate with your child. Instead of having a group intervention, avoid making it look like an attack by only having a number of people present. Having another person there to assist you will provide support and help you to remain strong should your child attempt to break you down or attack you as a defense mechanism. If the intervention becomes violent, contact the authorities immediately.
Discuss The Child’s Dreams
By reminding the individual about their dreams and aspirations, it can give them something to live for and attain as a replacement for the drugs. If they have nothing to look forward to after rehab, it is likely they will return to their addiction. Make a list of activities they once enjoyed and dreams they once had to remind them of what the future can hold if they recover from their addiction. This will be the ultimate motivator to get clean and remain strong.
Similar to those who enter drug addiction rehabilitation centers, many patients first deal with extreme cases of denial because it can be more difficult to comprehend and accept that they have a dependency. Expect your child to go through denial during the conversation, and be prepared on how you will react to it. Provide statistics and facts that are identical to symptoms or habits they have attained through their addiction, and relate it to their life. Allow them to experience the pain in the conversation, and resist consoling them too much. It’s important to allow the individual to get to a vulnerable place where they realize they need help and can agree to enter drug rehabilitation.
Discuss the Implications
Do not hesitate to discuss what they’re future will look like if they continue their addiction and avoid seeking help. Even as painful as it will be, discuss health issues and even death that is likely to occur. This will help make the situation a reality for the addict.